What if you were sworn to secrecy about something, but you know the person you're keeping the secret from needs to know this?
Tuesday, April 13, 2021
Keep the Secret
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Hmmm, if it's a matter of life or death, I would tell him/her indirectly with very subtle hints... If not, I would not tell anything, I'm a grave.
ReplyDeleteI'd talk to the person who told me, and try to convince him or her to tell the person, and why. If I was told, then it CAN be told. There are some things that need to be told. My mind jumped to a husband/wife/partner who is cheating with someone with a transmittable disease. The other party needs to know for their own health.
ReplyDeleteYeah, that kind of secret would qualify. (I kept it vague on purpose.)
DeleteDepends who the person and what the secret is I suppose.
ReplyDeleteIt all depends on what the secret is :D
ReplyDeleteThink of something someone would *really* need to know. That's slightly different for different people.
DeleteFor me, it's not a speculative question. In my profession I am supposed to keep secrets. But I also have an ethical obligation to violate that trust under certain conditions -- like when someone is in danger of being hurt or killed. The real debate is where do we draw the line?
ReplyDeleteAh yes. This is where a for-instance matters. What may seem critical in once case might not be in another.
DeleteEek.. it really depends on the secret and my relation to both the secret keeper and the person I'm keeping the secret from.
ReplyDeleteI also have to keep certain things about my job secret (and no, I don't work for the CIA.) I would be pretty torn. It would depend on a lot of things. Is life or safety involved? If so I think I would tell the person who confided in me and ask (or beg) him or her to let me tell the secret.
ReplyDeleteI guess *needs* is in the eye of the beholder. For me, I would consider that safety. But then again, it could just be something that wouldn't be fatal if not disclosed. Maybe.
DeleteOUCH! When I am told something and it is made clear that it does not need to get out, I am not to tell...I don't tell. HOWEVER, if the person involved is a friend, and that person NEEDS to know to save their life, anyones life, or their job....and it is really a NEED to keep something bad from happening, then I will tell but I don't tell where I got my info.
ReplyDeleteALSO....as for TN Tiny Weddings, I hate when I read something but my mind sees something other then what is really there.
DeleteI did say need...
Deletewhat if you have no one to tell to?
ReplyDeleteThat's a twist. Someone needs to know the secret, but you don't know them well enough to tell them? Hmmm...
DeleteI can keep things in secert. I recall being young and naive falling for mainly girls in school. Tell me they could keep my so called deepest secert, well I tell them and soon it would be spread about. I recall my feeling of hurt and foolish. So if someone tell me something in condidentail. Unless it young child being hurt rules change quickly.
ReplyDeleteCoffee is on and stay safe
The important word there is NEED. I have had a couple of different jobs where I had to keep things confidential. Under penalty of law. However, in certain circumstances I was required legally to speak up. Especially if it involved someone's safety or illegal activity.
ReplyDeleteBeing able to be trusted with a secret is a wonderful virtue to hold. However, discretion is not the most ethical choice in some situations. If a person NEEDS (actually needs) to know something, then they need to know.
Hard when someone asked for secrecy, but sometimes there is something someone else needs to know.
DeleteI can imagine this person going on the run after, say, saving the other's life. :)
ReplyDeleteThat would be quite a story.
DeleteI would drop some clever hints ... so that s/he gets it, while I wouldn't have broken the word not to tell it.
ReplyDeleteI keep secrets but I have to be logical as well. In the event that it will be harmful to the person or other people, I will let them know. I have done this but when a person told me something and it was bad, I told them I can't keep this secret because it is wrong so they must go and tell the other. I told them if they don't, I will but I will stand by them as they told the secret.
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