What if? It's the basis of many stories. We ask. We ponder. We wonder.
On Tuesdays I throw one out there. What if? It may be speculative. It may stem from something I see. It may be something I pull from the news.
Make of it what you will. If a for instance is not specified, interpret that instance as you wish. And if the idea turns into a story, I'd appreciate a thank you in the acknowledgements 😉
I just watched (by the time you read this, I should have finished it) The Buccaneers on Apple TV Plus. If you've seen it, you know where this question comes from.
What if you discovered that your very good friend's romantic interest (or romantic partner) was an absolute horror? But when you attempted to warn your friend about what you personally witnessed, they wouldn't listen to you.
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I wouldn't be surprised they ignored the warning. Love does blind! I would let them know that I'd be there for them anytime (because eventually they'll wise up, hopefully before something bad happens to them), but also make it clear I would not be meeting them them together, just without the partner.
ReplyDeleteYou did all you could, I guess, by warning them. I don't know what else you could do, except try to discreetly get proof.
ReplyDeleteThat would lead to a lot of decisions to be made, tell her? Don't tell her and let it eat at you? Then I decide to tell and she don't believe how do I handle that.....I think, being the person I am, I would have to tell, how she takes it, will depend on if I back away or stay and watch? I think I would stay the friend, be there to pick up pieces but request that until time pieces need to be picked up, that we don't talk about him.
ReplyDeleteUm...been there, done that. You pretty much are in a lose-lose situation. You tell your friend and then will most likely lose them as a friend while they stay with their horrible partner.
ReplyDeleteI've been in this position. My best friend was planning on marrying this narcissistic jerk who, let's just say got back at her for a " wrong" she never ever committed. I told her that I'd she marries him she will be in a tough marriage and she deserved better. I told her it was a mistake but she didn't listen. 3 kids and 23 yrs later she went through a very nasty divorce after she was informed he was having an affair and had racked up her credit to 9ver $100 grand! It was a devastating time for her because he called her a drunk and everything else, delaying all he could including disclosing his taxes. She is really good now and she would not have her 3 kids if she listened to me.
ReplyDeleteI know I would have more trouble with some one has nationalism ideals.
ReplyDeleteThat's one that you really have to tiptoe around. Do you lose the friend if you push your concerns past her resistance? But what if your friend is being hurt physically, for example? I've never had to deal with this but I had two friends who had train wreck marriages they got out of before I met them - one's husband ended up in prison for bank robbery (!) at which point she divorced him, and the other ended up fleeing her trailer with three small kids in tow when he threatened them after he found she had filed for divorce. So, what if I had known them during those marriages. I've thought about that more than once.
ReplyDeletePeople have to find out for themselves, don’t they?
ReplyDeleteThat's not a pleasant job to do. You run the risk of losing a friend. But I'd definitely drop more than a hint.
ReplyDeleteIt's tough watching a friend in a risky relationship. Even if they don't listen right away, I believe in showing unwavering support and gently expressing concerns. Being there for them, without judgment, can make a big difference when they're ready to make a change.
ReplyDeleteHappy Friday, Liz!